Convincing a reluctant alcoholic or addict they need rehab.

One of the most frequently asked questions we get at The Sydney Retreat is how to convince someone with a chemical dependency that they need treatment.

The user themselves is often the last person to see it. 

Reassuringly, recent studies indicate that success rates for people entering rehab unwillingly are exactly the same for those who are desperate for help. 

So how do you convince a problem drinker or drug user they need to seek treatment?

Well, being armed with the right information is a good start.

Here are some of the arguments we often hear and the facts as we see them.

“I don’t drink or use every day.” 

If our experience at The Sydney Retreat makes one thing clear, it’s that everyone drinks and uses differently. Some have a daily habit. Others can stay sober for weeks or months at a time.

What makes someone’s drinking or drugging problematic is not the amount they use. It’s about the impact that using has on their lives.

“But aren’t alcoholics hopeless bums who live under bridges?” 

Not at all. Alcoholics and addicts come from all walks of life. They often have successful careers and high paying jobs. 

“My case is different.”

An alcoholic or drug addict alone in his thoughts can come up with countless reasons why his case is special. He’ll argue that so-and-so is worse than him. Or that he still has a nice car and his job.

Convincing someone in denial isn’t always easy. Rather than focusing on the person’s behaviour, some have success describing the impact their loved one’s using is having on them. A recent Hazelden study found that 70 percent of its patients only sought help after an intervention from family and friends.

The good news is, many guests are quickly able to recognize their problem when hearing others share at The Sydney Retreat.

“I can stop if I want to.”

The truth of the matter is that people with a problem won’t be able to stop easily. A look at their drinking or using history should make that abundantly clear. Without frequent attendance at AA or NA meetings, or attending a residential rehab, most have very little hope of recovery.

For many with a chemical dependency the easiest way to stop is attending a Twelve Step immersion program like The Sydney Retreat.

“I’ve tried AA/NA and it doesn’t work.”

It’s not unusual for people to have a rocky start in these recovery programs. However, those who persist frequently get sober.

Data clearly shows that Twelve Step programs like Alcoholics Anonymous and Narcotics Anonymous are the most effective ways to achieve long term sobriety. 

Studies also reveal that those who come to AA & NA after a Twelve Step-based rehab enjoy more success than those who attend AA or NA alone.

“I hate all this God stuff.”

Twelve Step programs are not religious programs. They do however suggest that people find a Higher Power in their lives. What that Higher Power is entirely up to the individual. Some draw on their religious beliefs. Others choose nature, the power of the group – whatever works for them.

“I’m too busy. I have my family / business to look after.”

For those who stay sober, the 28 days they spend at The Sydney Retreat is a small commitment to make. A sober mum or dad can offer a lifetime of love and support to their kids. A sober boss can run a more successful business. By addressing their drinking and using, every area of their lives benefit.

“I need to hit rock bottom first.”

A common school of thought is that someone needs to hit bottom before they become willing to turn things around. Research tells us this is simply not true. When committed to a rehab like The Sydney Retreat, a chemically dependent person with no desire for treatment has the same chance of getting sober as anyone else.To find out more about how The SydneyRetreat can help you, call us on 9171 2928.

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